Couples Therapy
Have You And Your Partner Been Feeling Emotionally Disconnected?
Do you feel like you’re just not as in love as you were when you first met?
Are the two of you experiencing communication breakdowns and unresolved conflict?
Is your relationship doing well, but you still feel that there are areas of growth?
Maybe your relationship or marriage is characterized by tension, arguments, and fleeting moments of connection amidst day-to-day busyness. Perhaps you feel like you’re having the same fight over and over with no resolution. Although both of you want to work through your disagreements and make things right, you keep coming back to the same central issues and experiencing gridlock.
On the other hand, maybe your relationship is in relatively good shape, but you simply want to learn new skills and ensure that your connection stays strong. Both of you may have witnessed unhealthy dynamics in other relationships, so now you’re determined to do things differently.
You And Your Partner May Be Experiencing A Lack Of Intimacy
Perhaps your relationship isn’t characterized by constant conflict, but a sense of emotional distance has crept in.
Over time, you and your significant other have gotten so busy with all your responsibilities—work, parenting, managing finances, etc.—that you simply don’t have as much time for each other.
As a result, intimacy may have fallen on the backburner. Although you still love each other, you’ve begun to feel more like roommates than romantic partners.
No matter what season of life your relationship is in, we encourage you to connect with us. At Elevation Behavioral Therapy, our counselors specialize in helping couples build communication skills, enhance their intimacy, and foster a deeper understanding of one another.
Relationships Today Are Often Plagued By Unrealistic Expectations
From time to time, all couples get stuck in cycles of disconnection. We all bring different expectations, traumas, love languages, and attachment styles into our relationships, so it’s only natural that we experience disagreements. There is wisdom in accepting that no relationship is perfect and understanding that two people won’t always see eye to eye.
Unfortunately, our culture teaches people to bring unrealistic expectations into relationships. Social media is littered with images of picture-perfect couples vacationing, falling in love, and living breezy lives. Naturally, this creates a “compare and despair” culture where people are constantly comparing their lives to other people’s highlight reels. They feel like their relationship is the only one struggling.
If this is how you and your partner feel, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. You might not see it on social media, but many, many couples are dealing with conflict and disconnection.
Many Couples Struggle To Make Room For Quality Time In Our Busy World
Between work stress, technological distractions, and increasing economic pressures, most couples these days are simply juggling more than they can handle. The fast-paced nature of modern life makes it hard for them to prioritize their relationship, be intimate, and engage in meaningful conversation. All too often, relationships flounder not because of fighting but because of how busy both partners are. This is especially the case for those with kids, since it’s difficult to find time for romantic and sexual intimacy on top of parenting.
Counseling is a chance to remind yourselves of the reasons you fell in love so that you can keep your marriage or relationship fresh and healthy. Think of it like a tune-up—just as you would take your car to the mechanic for an oil change, you’re taking your relationship to therapy so that you maintain your connection.
Therapy Offers A Safe Haven For Couples To Build Trust And Cultivate Intimacy
Many couples that come to our practice have already tried to fix their relationship issues, only to keep getting gridlocked again and again. Part of the problem is that they get stuck in ingrained patterns and lose their ability to see their conflicts from a new perspective.
Counseling is a chance to widen your perspective so that the same arguments don’t keep repeating themselves. It’s an opportunity for you and your partner to get vulnerable, have difficult conversations, and learn to turn toward each other rather than away.
Elevation Behavioral Therapy specializes in working with both married and unmarried couples, including those in the LGBTQ+ community. What’s more, couples that see us don’t have to be struggling — if you and your partner are just looking for a relationship tune-up, we welcome that. When your marriage or relationship is in a good place, that’s often the best time to seek therapy, since both of you can work through problems without high-level conflict.
What To Expect In Couples Counseling Sessions
Typically, we will start by meeting with you and your significant other together to learn about what brings you to therapy and what you’d like to work on. The next two sessions will be individual sessions held with you and your partner separately so that we can get to know each of you on a personal level. After that, we’ll resume meeting together for the rest of counseling.
Most sessions are either 60 and 75 minutes long, and we offer flexible scheduling depending on your availability.
In sessions with us, you’ll explore communication, emotional connection, intimacy, and conflict resolution. As a collaborative unit, we’ll set short and long-term goals to enhance resilience, relationship satisfaction, and mutual understanding. We’ll also look at your love languages and attachment styles, enabling the two of you to understand each other on a deeper, more meaningful level.
Have any questions? Send us a message!
Our Approach To Couples Therapy
Elevation Behavioral Therapy uses a range of modalities to help couples, as we recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all approach. By drawing from these approaches and tailoring therapy to suit your relationship’s unique needs, we are confident that we can help you pave the way toward renewed harmony and tangible growth. Above all, we want to offer a safe haven: a space to untangle your complexities, build trust, foster connection, and cultivate deeper intimacy.
Some of the main treatment methods we draw from include:
The Gottman Method
This approach is all about evaluating the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship so that you can build a solid foundation together. The Gottman Method can help you explore your partner’s inner world, nurture appreciation for each other, and increase fondness and intimacy.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
The goal of IFS is to help you understand your individual parts and how those parts impact your relationship. For example, part of you may have trust issues because of betrayal in past relationships; IFS can help you manage this part’s impact on your ability to connect with your current partner.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
This approach provides you with skills for regulating your emotions, acting more mindfully, reducing conflict, and increasing communication.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
The goal of CBT is to identify and acknowledge automatic negative thought patterns that create distress within your relationship.
You May Have Some Questions About Marriage And Couples Therapy…
Breathe New Life Into Your Relationship
If you would like to learn the skills and insights to develop a successful, trusting relationship, we believe that our approach to couples therapy is right for you.
Schedule a free initial phone consultation or first appointment directly online through our booking link. You can also email us at support@elevationbehavioraltherapy.com or call or text us at (720) 295-6566 to connect further.
A healthier, deeper connection awaits through the power of therapy.
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